I read once that the things we say to our children now and
the matter to which we say them will later become their inner voice as adults.
Reading that stopped me in my tracks. I posted it on my refrigerator door to
remind myself not only of what I am saying to my children but the messages my
actions are giving them. Stop yelling! Speak to them with the full amount of
respect any soul deserves no matter their age. Tell them all the amazing things
about their character. Always guide their actions with gentleness so that one
day they too will treat their own errors with the same forgiveness. Don’t
criticize my body or theirs. Talk about others strength and don’t point out
their weaknesses. Have them play outside for their souls are truly free in nature. Always leave the gender of the individual they one day will
choose to love open. Let them define their own gender. Don’t use punishment as
a tool to shape their action because the messages given is shaming. Stop
everything when your child asks for a hug. Let my actions demonstrate desired
behavior and self love. Never stop learning and trying to be a better parent. Reward
their good days and hold them close on their bad days. Feed them healthy
organic foods and limit their exposure to bad chemicals. See past negative
behaviors for the unmet need. Demonstrate a good relationship with my husband. Don’t
ever hold back expressing affection to their father in their presence. Follow
my dreams. Show them the value of being a “stay at home mom”. Show them how to prioritize taking care of
yourself and don’t feel guilty for taking time for myself. Never refuse to
apologies to my kids when I make a mistake reminding them that no one is
perfect. Let go more of the small stuff while creating a peaceful environment
for them to grow. Truly be present. Complement their creativity and give them opportunities
for self-expression. Embrace their interests and don't push my own. In the
end completely take them in as if they are the air I breathe. Breathe in each
stage, each smile, each accomplishment and each failure. Enjoy the journey.
Most days I feel like I can do this. But today I woke up
after a night of nursing Leo nonstop and I felt resentful. I wanted sleep. I
wanted to feel connect to everyone but all I felt was disconnection. After a
night out being social the isolation of being a stay at home mom seems less doable.
Sitting down to write this blog is helping me to feel more grounded. Today I am
feeling fragile and I am going to honor that feeling. I am going to do things
that feed me. I am going to lowering my shield and show my vulnerability that I
am covering with anger. I am truly blessed and thankful this day for it all.
